My Toddler and The Tantrums?

Just before I continue our Manila Ocean Park Trip, I would like to discuss about James’ attitude nowadays.

I can’t believe that he’s growing up really fast. He’s being responsive every day and that he does more things than before.

For example, He can now fluently say “CAR”. Last time, he learned “DOWN” and “Daddy”. I can also hear him say “Dede” either pointing on his milk bottle or my or anyone else’s boobs or even navel. I don’t know why he call the pusod as dede too..

James is a year and four months and his vocabulary is growing every day. I am surprised myself to hear my baby boy saying things out loud. Akala ko yan, magsasalita pa lang when he reached 2 years old but I am dead wrong. He can now say single – words with a minimal repetition for him to learn.

One of the things that I noticed too is that, he’s singing. Although it’s as if he’s saying something na hindi talaga maintindihan but you’ll know because there’s sort of a tune. Whenever we watch frozen, he duets with Elsa singing “Let it go’ with matching hand gestures. He also dances with upbeat tones. In short, pa bibo na ang bagets. =)

Pero eto talaga ang hindi ako makapag move on eh. Last night, we went to Mall of Asia to have dinner and to unwind for a bit. Yung tipong makalabas lang ba sa lunga at nakakainip naman ang laging nasa opisina lang. When we got to the mall, we decided to eat na lang sa Max’s Restaurant. Under renovation ang place and Max’s was not relocated elsewhere daw. I don’t know if it was relocated or tinanggal na talaga. We decided to eat na lang sa Congo Grill courtesy of Daryl’s Mom. While we order, nakakinis lang na masikip ang place and there’s no room para sa stroller so kelangan ko pang tupiin. 

 While we were waiting, I have decided to bring James to Timezone. Malapit lang kasi sa Congo Grill eh. I bought another card because my officemates didn’t return my old one. Anyway, sulit naman because for P100, It comes with P120 load that you can use right away. I let James do one ride while I sang on one of their cubicles for videoke. Grabe! Winner dun ang videoke nila, ang gaganda ng equipment.

Daryl and I decided to go back to Congo Grill kasi baka ready na ang food. We were telling James “Bye” so he would follow us out pero hindi, deadma lang sya sige pa din ang kalikot sa mga ibat-ibang gadgets. When I hold him and sapilitang inilibas sya. Ayun, lumuhod at naglulupasay sa labas ng Timezone. I carried him right away pero as in nagpapabigat sya at kumakawala dahil gustong bumalik sa Timezone. Until we got inside Congo Grill, nagwawala pa din. I have to make him sit sa high chair then gave my spoon and fork para manahimik na. I don’t want any commotion. That’s when I realized na marunong ng mag tantrums ang Anak ko!.

A tantrum or temper tantrum is an emotional outbreak, usually associated with children or those in emotional distress, typically characterized by stubbornness, crying, screaming, defiance, angry ranting, a resistance to attempts at pacification and, in some cases, hitting.

After some thinking, I realized na madalas na nga syang umaarte kapag hindi nakukuha ang gusto nya. When his Daddy and I are eating, he wants to have a spoon and fork for himself and would scoop our food. Since di pa sya marunong, it sometimes ends up na kumakalat. There were times din na he gets something na hindi pwede sa kanya, as much as possible, I would tell him to “bigay kay mama” so he would give it to me peacefully which often than not works but for some other time, I would need to grab it from him para di na mag cause ng anything that would hurt him the he would start crying with paawa face. There were also times na sisigaw at magtitili yan ng matinis nyang boses na nakakabingi. I don’t know kung san nya natutunan ang pagtili – tili.

Not just that, whenever he sees me going out of his sight, hahabol na yan while crying. Kapag alam nyang he can’t get close to me, mag lulupasay na yan sa sahig at iiyak na akala mo wala ng bukas. 

I don’t know what has changed. Previously, when I still had the old househelp (sumalangit nawa sya!), he won’t cry kapag aalis kami going to work. Alam kasi ng yaya kung paano sya lilibangin while doing some activity like, when he sees me going out, instead na humabol, the yaya would get him and would carry him then would make him lock the door which makes him forget that I am leaving. I don’t know if it would still work if we would get a new Nanny. As of the moment, yayaless pa din kami. My aunt found one from Masbate daw and she’s a relative of them kaya lang their asking for an advance payment that I can’t produce yet kasi biglaan naman. You know, walang savings. Hehehe.

Anyhow, I don’t know kung paano ang approach na gagawin ko with James whenever he throws tantrums. Should I give in ba to avoid his crying or should I make tiis. Naisip ko naman kasi maybe he’s too baby pa para mapagsabihan although I know that starting to teach your kids the correct manners early would surely pay off, diba? I’m torn..

How about you Mommies? Any suggestions?