Stealing Nanny is Finally Out

My Nanny has left already.

I was sad and glad at the same time. I actually don’t know what to feel. First, I am sad because no one will look after James when I go to work. I have trusted her so much kaya mejo sad din ako na hindi nya na keep yung trust na yun. Secondly, I am happy because hindi na ako mag wo worry ng mga bagay na pwede pang mawala sa bahay. At the same time, hindi na ako mag aalala for James na baka hindi maayos ang lagay nya while I and Daryl are away.

It went like this, One Friday night, I received text messages from my yaya na pinagsabihan daw sya ni Nanay about mga sinampay, at the same time, pinuna din daw yung madalas nyang pag uwi. She was supposed to be staying in our house then she can go home during Sundays. What happened kasi was, nakakauwi sya whenever she likes kasi ayoko naman na pagbawalan sya. I don’t like to be that kind of amo naman na sobrang higpit.

Her text messages said that she left James with Nanay and without paalam, she went home. I don’t know what exactly happen. I asked Nanay kasi na wag pagalitan about us finding out that she’s stealing.

I called Daryl and he said na pinaalis na nga daw nila. I heard my Mom and Daryl’s Mom on the background. Andun din pala sila sa bahay. I thought baka nagkaron pa ng diskusyunan. Wala naman pala.

When I came home, James’ already sleeping. I asked Daryl about what happened. He was sent a text message din pala that our yaya went home ng walang paalam. Daryl asked her side of the story why she went home at sinabihan na kung ganyan sya, maghahanap na lang kami ng iba. She replied to Daryl saying na wala naman syang dahilan, gusto lang nya daw umuwi and that ok lang naman dawn a maghanap na kami ng iba. Daryl never sent a text message to her after. I didn’t reply din kasi on her text messages dahil gusto ko muna marinig from Nanay kung anong nangyari.

That night, she kept on sending messages saying sorry about what she did. She said na hindi na daw mauulit and that she wants to go back the next Monday. Weekend have passed, she kept on sending messages asking if she can go back. We never replied to her. I am thinking that it will be the best way para hindi na sya bumalik and that I can take advantage of the situation para hindi ko na sya paalisin because of her stealing. So kungbaga, she made it easier for me to kick her out.

While she’s away, it gave me time to check some of our things. I found out na hindi lang pala dawalang pirasong damit ang nakuha nya (the one that I posted here), kundi madami – dami na din. Shorts, undergarments.. mostly my clothes were missing. I checked James’ clothes and found na parang wala naman nawala. Mejo kinabahan pa ako kasi James has a lot of big clothes na gift to him for his 1^st birthday and the holiday that passed. Awa ng Dyos parang wala namang nawala. Daryl’s things were untouched. So basically, mga damit ko lang talaga ang pinag iinteresan nya. It was really annoying knowing na pati yung favorite kong shorts, nawawala na din. I was really pissed and it took me a lot of courage not to send her nasty and insulting text messages. For my family and James’ protection, ayokong awayin sya about her stealing kasi she knows our house very well, she knows our everyday pattern and schedules and as to when walang tao sa bahay namin – both houses, ours and Nanay.

That Saturday, I was really nervous and paranoid that someone might came stealing something or worse, going in our house and would hurt me and James. Buti sana kung ako lang, eh paano si James? I was really paranoid. I did James’ laundry and that ayokong maiwan ang mga damit namin na nakasampay outside. I was really scared na baka naipa duplicate nya ang susi ng bahay namin. Nakikiramdam ako here and there and I kept our door closed all the time. Ganto ako ka paranoid knowing that she could ask someone else to break in our house specially on a Sunday na walang tao sa bahay.

Monday came, Nanay was at home so she took care of James for the meantime while we are looking for a new nanny. Nanny sent a another message saying that she was too shy to go back so she’s asking if we would want her back. I still never replied. I don’t want to actually tell her na ayoko na syang bumalik because she’s stealing and that it made me uncomfortable knowing that she left James without anyone’s permission for her to leave. Kahit sabihin pang kay Nanay sya iniwan, I no longer trust her.

Tuesday came, another text received saying that she’ll get her things na lang daw and that if there’s a chance na makabalik sya sa amin. She said pa na nanghihinayang daw kasi sya sa trabahong iniwanan nya. Sa asar ko, I replied to her that I can no longer accept her because I know that she’s stealing bigas, my clothes and anything she want. I told her that sayang naman because I trusted her so much. It took a while before she respond. I thought, wow! Nagawa pa talagang mag reply. Haha. She said “Panu ang mga gamit ko? Sige pakitapon na lang, sori.” That’s what she said. I was like “EDI WOW!” yung mga gamit pa nya talaga ang naisip nya ha? Knowing that there we know she’s stealing, she still had the guts to respond?

Anyway, hindi ko na sya nireplyan pa. As much as possible, I want less communication with her na. After that, hindi na sya nangulit pa. I was really glad na hindi na nauwi pa sa confrontation. I was happy na she’s out although I have been struggling this week as to where to leave James while I work. Kung pwede ko nga lang sya isama sa office, why not. Hayyy..

Ate Fraulene said that they found someone na pwedeng pumalit and that I have to send a pamasahe from Masbate to here. That nanny daw was personally known by my aunt na kasama nila ate sa bahay. I don’t know yet kung how it will be like, I have no information aside from that kasi kaka deliver lang ng message. I’ll surely let you know in the next couple of days.

For the meantime, HAPPY VALENTINE’S Day muthers!!! Love, love, love =)

My Yaya Failed Me

Hi Muthers!!

I feel low today. I am really sad that my yaya failed me. She really did. Sabi ko pa naman on my last post na sana magtagal sya dahil ok naman ang pagaalaga nya kay James. I am fine din naman sa mga klase ng trabaho nya sa bahay kahit mejo hindi Pulido, napagtatyagaan naman. In the first place, hindi naman ganon ka kalat ang apartment namin.

Ok, Here’s what happened.

Last Friday, before I went to work, I did some shopping especially yung mga necessity talaga like rice grains, eggs, sugar etc. Yung bang kailangan na kailangan talaga sa bahay at hindi na makakapag hintay ng weekend.

Anyway, I bought 5kgs of rice grains nga. I placed it on our storage and noticed na hindi napuno so I said, kulang pala ang 5kgs sa storage na to sa I planned to buy another  5kgs tomorrow (Friday) para mapuno ko. They said that it brings luck din sa household if laging puno ang bigas on your storage. For me, wala naman masamang maniwala dun kasi it’s a necessity naman (bigas) and it would feel secure na may kakainin kami in the next couple of weeks diba?

Eto na nga, As the week passes by, napapansin kong kumokonti ang bigas. Our usual consumption of rice is only 3 takal a day. May tira na yun ha? Until earlier today when I woke up, I noticed na parang ¼ na lang ng storage ang bigas (transparent kasi yung storage). So nagtaka talaga ako ng bonggang bongga mga ateng! I asked her to go to wet market to buy our lunch na lang. I gave her Php500. I requested for a porkchop to fry.

While she’s away, hindi talaga ako mapakali kakaisip sa rice grains kung san napupunta. I seldom get home naman with tirang rice. My instinct was telling me to check her bag. The last time I saw it, it was hanging near our door tapos parang walang laman. When I looked at it, mejo bulky na sya. I know what I did was bad pero I didn’t bother, I saw a paper bag on her bag na natatakpan ng 3 pcs of clothes. The paper bag was sealed with a packaging tape and it seems that it was hard to open. Kinapa ko lang to feel ang laman, I thought it was apple kasi I was telling her since Monday na may apple sa ref and she and James may eat it. Binuhat ko na yung supot from her bag and felt rice grains. I touched to identify what’s on top but I can’t tell. I placed everything back to her bag and gave myself a little time to think. I was telling myself na baka naman someone gave her that paper bag with rice grains inside. I thought I’ll check what’s inside the paper bag and re-seal it with our packing tape. Oh! Great idea! However, I can’t find the tape from where I placed it. I gave up pero hindi talaga mapakali ang instinct ko. I took the paper bag again and cut the tape that seals it. I made sure na hindi masyadong obvious na binuksan. I finally opened it! I was so nervous, it seems like I can’t feel my hands. I was so shocked to see what’s inside.

*  I saw my old shirt and a sleepwear dress -  the shirt was old na pero maayos naman. I actually gave it to my niece pero I wore it once pauwi when we slept over. The sleepwear dress I bought in tiangge when I was pregnant with James to comfortably sleep.

*  Rice Grains – I saw and I confirmed that it was my rice grain. I touched it kasi and since ako ang bumili, alam kong that’s from our storage. It was sold kasi only in the wet market for Php52 a kilo and it was not available on any near store around our house. Okay, that explains kung bakit biglang naglalaho ang bigas ko.

* Canned Sardines and instant noodle – I saw my canned Ligo na nakapatong on top of the grains along with 1 pack of instant noodle.

Yung totoo te!! Parang relief goods lang ang peg!! Juice colored!! She could have asked me for those things na lang diba? I’ll be very glad to hand her some. NKKLK.

I didn’t get anything from the paper bag. I put back the tape and placed it everything inside her bag from how I took it out. When I was putting it all back, I saw merong umbok sa may bulsa sa loob ng bag so I opened it too.. I was shocked even more.

* Peanut Butter – Hindi din nya pinalusot ang peanut butter. Isinalin nya sa mallit na garapon ng cheese whiz.

* Medicine – James was sick couple of days ago as I said here. I was told na yung medicine nya for cough was enough na daw and ubos na, sakto lang sa dosage and days na required syang uminom. I found it inside her bag more than halfway full.

* Old phone – I had this old phone that won’t open. It’s placed only sa underwear drawer namin. Well, she also wants to the old phone.

Geez!! I don’t know what to do at that moment! I told Daryl what I saw and he said na paalisin na lang daw. I was having a second thought up to now because I need her. My life was so convenient having her, James is at ease with her, He even wants to go with her na than mine sometimes. She knew James’ behavior in a short span of time. I have trusted her, everyone did. And now this?

I was thinking that she badly needs these things to get to their everyday life. Maybe walang -  wala sila at kapos na kapos sa araw – araw but she could have told me that she’s badly in need. I could have given her her money until the 15^th of February.

Last Saturday, She was asking for Php1,500 advance. I gave her the amount she’s asking without any hesitation. Hours have passed, she’s asking for another Php200 because she needs daw as panggastos dahil they used the Php1,500 to rent a house. I didn’t give her the Php200 because I assume she’s fine. Hindi na kasi sya nagsabi after that text message when she came back on Monday. I assumed that she’s fine. Now, I am thinking that wala talaga syang panggastos that’s why she took some things from our house.

Earlier today, she sent a text message saying that she has to go home because she’s not feeling well. She said na meron syang cough and colds at baka mahawaan pa si Jami. She was even asking for money to buy medicines daw.

 

As of this moment, she went home na. She said na nilalamig daw sya at masakit ang ulo so she really has to go home. Kakalipat lang daw nila sa bagong house so she’s worried na baka maligaw sya if sobrang gabi na sya uuwi. Daryl and I goes home kasi at 11pm na so she can’t wait for us any longer. She suggested that she’ll James to my sister na lang who lives just walking distance away from home. I agreed and I told my sister na kinin na lang si James at hayaan na ang yaya na ipuslit ang mga kinuha nya. Kunsensya naman nya ang magdadala nyan at hindi ako.

 

I am just really sad. I am a Mom too and I understand that she has to provide for her son pero she could have asked me na lang, nasaan naman baa ng kunsensya ko kung alam kong kailangang – kailangan pala tapos I won’t give her anything diba? Lalo na kung meron naman ako.

I didn’t make a confrontation earlier, I wanted to process what’s going on and to balance everything. I need her for my son although other people said na hindi ko na dapat pinagkatiwala si James sa kanya dahil sa small things nga hindi mapagkatiwalaan eh, sa anak ko pa kaya? I worried to much knowing na baka ibenta nya pa ang anak ko, or pabayaan if I confronted her and pinalayas sya right then and there. I don’t want to tell her naman na nakita ko sa bag nya all those things kasi it would turn out na pakialamera ako (which I did naman talaga) pero I want to come out here as the victim at gusto kong maintindihan nya na mali ang ginawa nya. All she needs is to ask me, magbibigay naman ako. I was trying to come up with something na hindi naman masisira ang relationship namin. I was thinking of giving her a chance thinking na she get really well with James. Pero now, I am having a second thought. She left my son which was her responsibility until I go home.

I don’t know if she’s done this before but I saw her carrying her bag/paper bag twice this month this month. Ok naman ang pakikitungo naman sa kanya, even my brothers ok din sa kanya. Tomorrow, Nanay will be back from Ilo-ilo and she’s aware of the situation. She said she’ll talk to her daw although I want Nanay and I to talk before they/us three do. I don’t know if I still want her.

I’ll give you an update tomorrow of what we’ll do to her of if she still has the guts to come back. Or maybe she just has to go home tonight to bring the stuff home or she’s aware that I know what she did.

Abangan…

Nanny 2015

One of the things that I am grateful at the start of 2015 is having a nanny for James. After so many months of struggle, looking for a nanny, it finally paid off. It was a great relief!

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I had 2 of my Aunts who took care of James last year and both of them only lasted for a month. It was quite annoying kasi kelangan mag send kami ng money para makaluwas sila in Manila then after a month, they have to go home. Let me put an emphasis to “HAVE” kasi parang requirement na kapag sinabi na uuwi na sila, uuwi na talaga sila at wala ng makakapigil pa. Althoug hindi naman ako ang nagsesend ng pamasahe nila, it’s Nanay or my eldest sister, mejo hindi lang maganda ang feeling na hindi man lang sila tumatagal.

November  have passed and it was Nanay who looked after James until halfway of December where I transferred home. That was also the same time na nakahanap si Nanay ng magaalaga kay James.

Ate Lenie was quite okay naman. She takes care of James well and even plays with him at times. James can be very choosy with the people he wants to go with. He doesn’t even want to be carried by anyone else. I don’t know his criteria pero kapag lalaki ang kakarga sa kanya, he’ll go most of the time but if it would be a  girl, never! That’s why I wanted someone who can still catch up with his kakulitan and his being playful. Since ate Lenie is at 30’s, she’s able to handle James well.

When she started halfway of December, I have let her to be on a stay – out basis. She would come in at 7 or 8 in the morning until 6pm. I was in the morning schedule back in December so that set up was fine. Nanay actually didn’t like the idea kasi same lang din naman daw ang babayaran ko, bakit hindi ko na lang daw ipag – stay in. I told her that it’s fine since maaga naman akong umuuwi at the same time, I want James to get use to her one step at a time. Ayaw ko naman na ma shock ang bagets na iba na ang kasama nya every day. Although my and Nanay’s house is walking distance lang, I still want Ate Lenie to stay out at night. Maybe I did that for the benefit of myself. I am in the new phase of my life where I have to live on our own and I have to deal with another person that I have never known. I am not used to having a yaya so I am still in the mindset na nahihiya akong nagtatrabaho sya sa bahay, something like that. I grew up without a yaya in my entire life so I don’t know what it feels like if someone you just met would be your househelp.

Came January, I had the midshift (12pm-9pm) so I required Ate Lenie to stay in our house on weekdays. In the past weeks, she’s having 2 consecutive days off which Nanay again, disliked. She said that she shouldn’t have 2 days off weekly. One would be fine with her daw. My point naman kasi is, we’re usually not at home every weekends and there’s very minimal things to do. Hindi naman kasi kalakihan ang bahay na inuupahan ko and I wasn’t that makalat naman. At the same time, wala pa kaming cable so wala kaming mapaglibangan sa bahay kundi si James. I am about to fix the cable thingy pa kasi eh..

As of the moment, I find her very helpful to me naman. Having a nanny made me have some me time and even rest after work hours.

Our routine on weekays falls like this:

James and I wakes up at 7am while Ate Lenie is up earlier than us. Magsasaing na yan while she’ll have coffee. Us three (James, Me and Daryl) would cuddle a little until 8am where Daryl has to go get ready for work. I would then ask Ate Lenie to buy food sa palengke para makapag luto before I go to work. There’ll be times din na I will be the one to go to palengke kapag sinisipag ako. Wala pa kasi kaming ref so I can’t buy too many food na madaling mabubulok. I or She would look after James until she’s ready to cook for our lunch. That’s around 9am. If the food is cooked early, Daryl and I would get to have our breakfast together. By then, magpapainit na sya ng water so she can bathe James. By this time, Daryl has left and at 9:30, I’ll get ready na to go to work naman. By 10am, I’ll leave the house while James would play or they’ll go to Nanay’s house to watch cartoons.

Daryl and I would come home at around 10:30pm. I don’t often eat na at night. I don’t want to feel bloated before going to sleep while Daryl would sometimes eat and sometimes don’t. James and Ate Lenie are both asleep by then. Daryl and I would catch up on how our days went and would go to sleep in a while.

That’s our everyday routine on weekdays. For weekends it’s different as Ate Lenie would do the laundry while I take care of James. That I want to happen na moving forward. Last couple of weeks kasi, it was Nanay who’s doing the laundry because I don’t like Ate Lenie’s way of paglalaba at pagasasampay. However, since Nanay went to province, Ate Lenie did the laundry. I asked her to go home on a Saturday afternoon na lang kasi mostly, Friday night pa lang umuuwi na yan eh tapos Monday morning na ang balik.

One thing that I noticed was, hindi sya masyadong magalang over me. Hindi ko naman sinasabing bastos sya or anything bad. She was introduced kasi by Nanay as Ate Lenie so I got used to it. Dapat daw, I’ll call her on her first name then she’ll call me Ate as her respect over me – sabi ng sister ko. Parang kabaliktaran kasi yung nangyari. Hehehe. Anyway, ok lang naman. Hindi naman big deal masyado. Although I want to correct it somehow, parang ang hirap, I don’t know how to start. Mejo nasanay lang ako na tumatawag ng ate sa mas matanda sakin. Hayyy.. Pero hindi ko naman na gagawing big deal nga.. keri na yan for now. =) Sometimes, I get piss lang on how she sends me text messages.

At some point, She was asking if she can make bale( advance) daw. OK lang naman sakin and it wasn’t a problem kasi maliit lang naman ang hinihingi.

Me: Ok ate. Mamaya na lang yung xxx mo pag uwi ko.

Ate Lenie: Gwin mung xxx. Blik cu ung xxx s Monday..qng may pera kpa..

Speechless ako mga teng!! I don’t know I just feel na hindi ako ang amo eh. Hahahaha! I am just making fun of it na lang kasi hindi din naman nya siguro intention to sound na nang uutos diba?! Hehe.

It’s her 2^nd month with us on Feb 15 and I am hoping she will last for a long time kasi ok naman talaga sya. =)